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RANTING FOR A BETTER PLANET
RANTSWORLD
RELATIONSHIPS
Indentured servitude or Equal partnership
TENETS OF THE RELATIONSHIP
YOU MUST PREPARE YOURSELF ADEQUATELY PRIOR TO GIVING BIRTH TO A NEW RELATIONSHIP ESPECIALLY CONSIDERING THAT FACT THAT IT MAY RESULT IN THE DEATH OF YOU MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY OR PHYSICALLY.
WE AS WOMEN GENERALLY GIVE MUCH MORE TO A RELATIONSHIP THAN MEN PARTICULARLY WHEN CHILDREN BECOME INVOLVED. THE SACRIFICES THAT WOMEN OFTEN MAKE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHICH IF HONESTLY WAS A PREVAILING FACTOR WILL PROBABLY END IN HEARTBREAK AND DESPAIR.
OR THE CONTINUING ON IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT HAS LONG SINCE RUNS ITS COURSE AND ALL THAT IS LEFT ARE THE FRAGMENTS OF HAPPIER TIMES. AND FEAR. LETS NOT FORGET FEAR AND THE IMPACT ITS ROLE PLAYS IN THE ILL CONCEIVED RELATIONSHIP
CHECKLIST OF THINGS TO CONSIDER PRIOR TO GETTING INVOLVED
No. 1
beware of the representative
As you may or may not be aware but most men are on their best behavior for the first little while. All please and thank you and how beautiful you are - but sooner than you would like these little pleasantries begin to were off and then the more primitive version of himself begins to emerge.
No. 4
MY MONEY MY BUSINESS
UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU SHARE, MIX, LEND OR DISCLOSE YOUR FINANCES AND/OR FINANCIAL SITUATION WITH YOUR POTENTIAL OR NEW PARTNER. CHANCES until you are certain that this factor is not a motivational factor for the would be.
No. 2
LOVE COMES IN THE FORM OF ACTIONS NOT EMPTY AIR
NOWADAYS IT SEEMS So EASY FOR PEOPLE TO TELL EACH OTHER THE LOVE ONE ANOTHER WHEN IN REALITY THE BARELY KNOW THAT OTHER PERSON. IT TAKES YEARS TO REALLY KNOW SOMEONE AND EVEN THEN THERE ARE ASPECTS TIO THAT INDIVIDUAL THAT YOU WILL NEVER KNOW OR SEE POSSIBLY.
LIKING IS NOT LOVING
No. 5
TRUST IS EARNED NOT A GIVEN
REMEMBER THIS PERSON IS ESSENTIALLY A STRANGER TO YOU AND AS SUCH SHOULD BE TREATED AS SUCH -
STRANGER DANGER
No. 3
Good LOVIN DOES NOT MEAN HE LOVES YOU
YOU MUST KNOW THAT LOVE AND GOOD LUVIN ARE NOT NECESSARILY SYNONYMOUS.. OFTEN TIMES GREAT LUST CAN BE CONFUSED WITH GREAT LOVE.
No. 6
LYING, CHEATING AND ABUSE CHRONIC CONDITIONS THAT HAVE NO CURE
IF YOUR PROSPECTIVE PARTNER HAS EXHIBITED OR BEEN SHOWING ANY OF THESE SYMPTOMS - BEWARE - AS THE OLD ADAGE ONCE A DOUCHE ALWAYS A DOUCHE IS TRUER THAN MANY OF US WISH TO BELIEVE. THERE IS NO SAVING A DOUCHE BAG
BEWARE AND BE LEERY IF:
HIS EX IS A PSYCHO - ASK YOURSELF WAS SHE PRIOR TO MEETING YOU AND IF SHE WAS WHAT ATTRACTED YOU TO A "PSYCHO" - CLASSIC TRANSFERENCE
IF HE'S IN A "BAD" RELATIONSHIP AND IS "MISUNDERSTOOD" - CLASSIC LINES OF THE PLAYER AND DOG. THIS GOES BACK TO HE CHEATED ON HER HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU - IT'S THE THRILL OF THE CHASE FOR CHEATERS NOT THE CONQUEST
HE HAS FEMALE FRIENDS - NO HE DOESN'T THIS IS A LIE MEN NEVER WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH WOMEN UNLESS THEY ARE TRYING TO GET LAID. ABSOLUTE NONSENSE
IF HE HAS MORE THAN ONE BABIES MAMA - THIS IS A CRITICAL SIGN TO RUN AWAY
IF HE HAS NO JOB - ALSO RUN AWAY QUICKLY
IF HE HAS A CRIMINAL RECORD - BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH HE MAY BE NICE HE HAS SERIOUSLY IMPEDED HIS CHANCES AT LEADING A HAPPY FULFILLING LIFE AND UNLESS YOU ARE LOOKING TO GET DRAGGED INTO HIS COURT AND PAROLE DRAMA WHICH WILL SERIOUSLY IMPEDE YOUR ABILITY TO OBTAIN A HAPPY FULFILLING LIFE - STAY AWAY
IF HE HAS NO PERMANENT ADDRESS - RUN - HE JUST NEEDS A PLACE TO STAY
so you think your getting played...No. 1 Rule Don't panic
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prepare yourself mentally for worst case scenario. this is easier said than done - confronting the truth is gut wrenching but so is constant wondering and worrying when you know something is off
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Trust your gut!
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follow the signs - quietly. be discreet.
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do not be deterred by feeling like your invading his right to privacy - especially in the digital age - cheating is all about passwords. if he has nothing to hide there is nothing to worry about
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consider as many responses and their consequences as possible; first based purely on an emotional response and then next on a purely logical response
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carefully weigh each consequence against what you want to achieve and consider what the consequences of your reaction(s) will be ie: Legal, emotional
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decide what you want to happen next and is the choice you have made going to allow you to have the upper hand ie: control on some level of the situation or put you in a position of vulnerability
since getting played is quite bad enough we must ensure that whatever our decisions are for moving forward do not compromise our well being (yet again) as this would be like adding salt to the already existing wound that we will now have to work towards healing and repairing.
Once the evidence has been substantiated - assuming of course you are not in denial Then it's time to begin the formulation (if you do not already have one) or the execution of your exit strategy.
THE EXIT STRATEGY
SO HERE WE ARE AT THE EXIT STRATEGY. WHICH MEANS EITHER WE ARE READY TO EXIT A RELATIONSHIP OR THAT WE ARE MAYBE PREPARING OURSELVES IN THE EVENT THE SITUATION MAY ARISE. EITHER WAY A PLAN OF ACTION IS ALWAYS PERTINENT AND PREPAREDNESS IS NOT JUST FOR SOCIETAL DISASTERS BUT ALSO ESSENTIAL NOWADAYS SO WE CAN REMOVE OURSELVES FROM UNWANTED SITUATIONS WITH AS MINIMAL DAMAGE AS POSSIBLE.
IF YOUR SITUATION IS RELATIVELY NEW AND NEITHER HAVE MUCH INVESTED IN THE WAY OF MONEY OR EQUITY THEN ITS A PERFECT TIME TO WALK AWAY - REMEMBER IF THINGS STARTED BADLY OR GO BAD QUICKLY THEN CHANCES ARE THEY WILL ONLY GET WORSE NEVER BETTER
YOU MUST REMEMBER NOTHING LASTS FOREVER SO THERE IS LITTLE POINT IN PRETENDING THAT IT DOES. MOST RELATIONSHIPS WILL COME TO AN END AND THE FACT IS THAT AS A WOMEN YOU MUST PROTECT YOURSELF FROM THE UGLY REALITY THAT MANY WOMEN HAVE FACED - WHICH IS THE TOTAL AND UTTER GIVING OF YOURSELF TO A RELATIONSHIP AND THEN WHEN IT ENDS THERE IS NOTHING LEFT OF HER FORMER SELF.
TIP#1 - ENSURE YOU ALWAYS HAVE YOUR OWN BANK ACCOUNT. NEVER ALLOW ANYONE ELSE TO HAVE ACCESS TO THIS ACCOUNT OR BECOME A JOINT ACCOUNT HOLDER AS THAT MAKES YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR WHATEVER NEGATIVE ACTIVITY THEY ACCRUE IN THE ACCOUNT.
TIP#2 - NEVER GIVE UP GAINFUL EMPLOYMENT THUS RESULTING IN YOU BECOMING FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT ON THIS INDIVIDUAL.
TIP#3 - DO NOT GIVE UP FRIENDS OR FAMILY MEMBERS FOR THIS INDIVIDUAL. MAINTAIN THE HEALTHY CONNECTIONS YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE - AS OFTEN THESE FADE IN LIEU OF DICK - BUT SINCE DICK DOESN'T LAST IT WOULD BE NICE TO HAVE A LOVING PERSON TO TURN TO WHEN THE DICK GOES.
NEW RELATIONSHIP - NEW EXIT STRATEGY